Thursday, August 14, 2008

What do you say to that?

Let me start off by saying I absolutely love my co-workers!  Okay now for the story I want to tell.  I have been very fortunate during my pregnancy to not have been sick or had many of the pregnancy symptoms.  I have, however, had the poor complexion.  I have struggled with acne all of my life, I have never had perfect skin.  Pregnancy has pointed that out even more.  Right before school started it was REALLY bad.  My mom says that it didn't help me being in the heat a lot two weeks in a row at camp and New Orleans.  Anyway, it was/is embarassing.  I have used Proactive for a few years now.  A girl in our youth group uses something called AcneFree that is similar to Proactive so I decided to try that.  I started using it the week before I went back to school and I could tell it was helping.  Maybe it had something to do with changing cleanser since I have used the same one for so long.  Anyway, I was feeling more confident because it was not as bad.  So I say all of this to set you up for a conversation at lunch earlier this week.  We were talking about pregnancy and one of my older co-workers turns to me and says "I noticed your complexion and I wanted to let you know my niece went through the same thing when she was pregnant."  Hmmm!  What do you say to that?  I guess it just surprised me because  I would never bring that up to someone in conversation unless they were talking about it.  I know she didn't mean it to insult me.  I just explained how I was glad it was better than it had been recently. I didn't think much more about it.  Well this morning I am greeted by a co-worker who recently had a baby.  She sells Mary Kay and handed me a bag that she said was a gift for me.  It was their cleanser, moisturizer, and acne treatment!  She said she really believed in it and she hoped it helped my complexion!  Now I love both of them to death and I know they both have my best intentions in mind and they in no way were trying to offend me.  But wouldn't that make you a little more insecure than you already are?  Especially being pregnant?  I am going to try the Mary Kay stuff and I do hope that it helps and I am really thankful to my friend for giving it to me.  But do you know what I mean?


On the other hand, here are a few 15 week belly pictures. This is from church on Sunday.


This was from Tuesday, the first day of school.  I told my students about the pregnancy and they said "you can't even tell."  Keep in mind that only a few of those kids had seen me before.  I sure can tell but I don't think it is completely obvious in this dress.  


7 comments:

Anonymous said...

I don't know what I'd say either. I would probably be upset or offended, but I wouldn't say anything back to them.

If it helps...I have NEVER noticed a "skin issue" with you. I have never thought "Hm Vanessa has bad skin".

I hope the Mary Kay stuff works. That sounds like a nice little gift basket though.

Did you get my text about the Papasan swing being on sale half off on Amazon? Are you going to register for a swing?

I don't know what swing you like, or if you even want one...and that's fine.

But that swing made me want to take every.single.worker of Fisher Price out to dinner and shake their hands and nominate them for a Peace Prize. Amazing wonderful swing!

Emily said...

Hmmmm...with Cason my skin had never looked better. It was beautiful ( I can say that because I, too, suffer from breakouts). When I was preg. with Kendall, I had the.worst.skin.ever. So, maybe that means you having a girl.

But seriously, how rude, People! Just wait until you're really showing...you'll get all kinds of fun comments!

Vanessa said...

Annika- I did get your message and to be honest I didn't know what it was. I was going to look it up but I forgot about it. I will register for a swing, I just had not thought much about it yet. If you say it is great I trust you!

Emily- Thanks for making me feel like I'm not the ONLY one who has had this problem. I also heard that if you feel more beautiful than ever being pregnant that you are having a girl. That is not my case. Did you feel that way with Kendall?

Anonymous said...

V--

A bunch of ppl were raving about that swing...and the reviews were awesome, and I joined their ranks after the baby would sleep in it, or play quietly and just chill and I could get things done.
I registered for it.

It's the one that looks like a padded bowl...and has leaves and stuff that spin around on the top. It goes back and forth, like a cradle, or front to back like a reg. swing.

I saw some new ones that are girlie, and one has like tulle or something on it. We have the plain original one.

I love it. I want one for me.

Michelle said...

so crazy thing...(It's Michelle by the way) I took some engagment pictures for a girl named Nikki that knew you, she was like, how do you know Vanessa, what a small world. Oh congrats on the baby, its so fun, you'll love being a mom!

Melinda said...

No Way! and that is all I have to say about that.

Emily said...

I have to say I did not feel beautiful when I was pregnant with Kendall. I felt like a fat 80 year old woman who couldn't walk. I mean, uh, it's great, yeah.
I'm sure you're beautiful!