Yes, I was asked that question today. I went with Clay to Eyemart Express to get a pair of reading glasses. It was after work and I was tired and ready for a nap. A lady there asked me when I was due and I told her "February 1st". She said, "so how far along are you?" and I said "about 6 1/2 months." She then looked at my belly and said, "oh are you having twins?" Are you kidding me? I was speechless for a few seconds before saying no. Needless to say I wasn't able to pay much attention to Clay trying on glasses because that lady kept walking by and I kept thinking about her comment. Wow! People amaze me. Of course Clay shrugged it off because men can do that. He had no idea why I was letting it bother me. Here are two conclusions that I have drawn from the comment:
1) If it was a man that would have said it, I could understand. I have had some men say things to me and I don't think they think about it nor have they been pregnant to understand how your body changes. They don't always realize their comments could be taken the wrong way. However,
2) No woman (especially if you have had kids) should be dumb enough to think that is an ok question to ask. I mean even if you suspect you say "what are you having" and if the answer "twins" comes out then great but that way you haven't completely embarassed yourself and the pregnant woman by starting with the bomb first!
Ok I'm done. I made Clay take this picture of me when I got home this afternoon. I guess you can decide for yourself. But hopefully after reading this, even if you do think I look like I am having twins, you will know better than to tell me! :)
4 comments:
No way do you look like your having twins. You look really good!
The only worse comment I can think of right now is. "When are you due"... when you are not expecting.
Thankfully this hasn't happened to me personally.
How rude!! You look fantastic.
Hey Vanessa, I just linked to your blog off of Melody's blog. I have never read your blog before, so I just spent a while catching up with your life! I just wanted to say congrats on the baby!!! That's so exciting. I also wanted to say that I just got asked a few weeks ago if I was having twins too. I was so upset that anyone would ever have the nerve to ask me that. So, I know how you felt completely. (You look really good, by the way. Such a cute preggo mommie!)
Take care,
Kara (Mel's cousin - just in case you have no idea who I am!!)
I think that you look great. In fact I think that your bump looks small. Don't worry about what people say. Even now, when I take Daniel out and he looks like a boy in every way, people still ask if he is a girl. Some people just have no idea.
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